Parenting Doesn't Come With Instructions It Comes With Experience

Parenting doesn't come with instructions., oh we can read books and we can read blogs such as this one or others, however the only true way to learn about parenting is each day being a parent. You will find that hands on is the best experience even when we make bad choices for ourselves and/or our children of which I myself am guilty of both. We will make decisions that we try to convince ourselves are the right ones, to discover later they were some of the worst ones we could make. We can't change most choices and by the time we realize we realize what our choice is doing to ourselves and/or our children the damage is already done. Most parents would not intentionally hurt their children even though we inadvertently. do. Whether we have chosen to no longer be with our children's other parent, we chose to remarry, we say things we feel is to protect them, but it instead they are hurt by them many times because our words are added to, taken from or completely twisted, then there are times we may something out of anger that we later regret, yet it doesn't change that the words were said, etc there are too many examples to list here. The point is that we all make bad choices and mistakes, but the two are not always the same. See the following defintions for both chies and mistakes and then see the similarities and differences. Hint: One is intentional (a choice) and one is unintentional ( a mistake) of which a choice was made not meant to hurt others including ourselves and of which I would dare to day that we are all guilty of both.

Choice :  

Definition of choice (n)

Bing Dictionary

choice

 [ choyss ]   

1. act of choosing something or somebody: a decision to choose one thing, person, or course of action in preference to others
2. power to choose: the chance or ability to choose between different things
3. selection of things: a variety of things, people, or possibilities from which to choose

Synonyms: excellent, high-quality, optimal, special, prime, best, select

 Definition of mistake (n)

Bing Dictionary

mis·take

 [ mi stáyk ]   

1. incorrect act or decision: an incorrect, unwise, or unfortunate act or decision caused by bad judgment or a lack of information or care
2. error: something in a piece of work that is incorrect, e.g. a misspelling or a misprint
3. misunderstanding: a misunderstanding of something

Synonyms: blunder, gaffe, faux pas, lapse, misstep, blooper, miscalculation, clanger, bloomer

I myself am deeply sorry for my bad choices and my mistakes of which sadly I have made many of both, that have inadvertently hurt my children and others over the years.

We however cannot beat ourselves up over our choices and/or mistakes nor can we allow others to do that to us as well. We can choose to apologize and move forward and do our best to make better choices and less mistakes as people and as parents. We can read all the instructions books we want as stated earlier, but even then we truly aren't prepared for what is ahead for us and our children as parents.. Parenting is an experience and an adventure in which we will who are parents will learn is no tan easy road to travel, but it is one well worth it all in the end...